My Lady, Who Are You Without Your Makeup?

One of the counsels I normally give to ladies I come in contact with on one on one, who are struggling to get married is that they should be original and not a carbon copy. Of a truth, some ladies have no true identity as they have lost their original true identity by trying to be like someone else.

Believe it or not, one of the undoings of some ladies is their trying to imitate the appearance of someone else, and by so doing, they end up destroying their own original identity. If you look at some ladies, they are living with a false identity, i.e. with somebody’s borrowed or stolen identity.


Recently, I read on Dailymail.co.uk/ a UK daily mail of the action of one Algerian Husband who sued his wife for £13,000 for inflicting ‘psychological suffering’. The man told the court in Algiers that he mistook her for a thief morning after their wedding. According to the man, he said he was ‘deceived’ by heavy make-up and ‘frightened’ when he saw her.

According to that newspaper, that Algerian groom, seeing his new wife without makeup was a step too far. The husband was so shocked after seeing his bride’s face the morning after their wedding that he failed to even recognize her. He even accused her of being a thief that had broken into his house.

After realizing it was, in fact, the woman he had married only yesterday, he decided to take her to court – accusing her inflicting ‘psychological suffering’ by ‘cheating’ him with her makeup. The groom is now seeking $20,000 (£13,000) damages.

The question is, “will you blame that Algerian man for his action? Some may blame the man while others may not, so I ask you my lady, “who are you without your makeup?

From what happened as recorded above, it is obvious that ladies identity with heavy makeup is different from her identity without makeup. So I ask you again, “Who are you without your makeup” or who do men say you are without makeup?

Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder as they say so, believe it or not, with heavy makeup men can be deceived to believe something about you which you are not just like the Algerian man.

The truth of the matter is that with your heavy makeup, men are not seeing your true identity and that may account for why men refuse to marry you or why you are not married as of today.

Of a truth, one of the reasons for a heavy makeup is denial or refusal to accept one’s own true identity. So many ladies are living with a borrowed identities or false identities. Are you one of them?

Another reason is that some ladies don’t like or accept the person they are seeing when they look at themselves on the mirror. The person you see on the mirror is your real you that you are trying to cover up with heavy makeup.

Obviously, it is self-actualization that should guide your make. In other words, you should accept the person you see when you look at yourself naturally on a mirror after taking your morning batch. You should build self-confidence on yourself without makeup, which will go a long way to moderate you’re making up.

Again, like one of my pastors used to say, it is those who don’t like the person they are seeing when they look at themselves on a mirror after taking their morning batch, who feels they are deficient in their appearance that go for heavy makeup in other to fill or make up for the deficiency.

One may ask “is there anything wrong with makeup”? Not at all, even my wife does makeup. What is wrong is allowing heavy makeup to swallow your true identity.

You should maintain your true identity, accept and build self-confidence in which you are and realize that you are a unique person. You are beautiful in the eyes of someone, so maintain your uniqueness by being original of yourself and not a carbon copy. Don’t makeup to appear like someone else.

Until I come your way again, accept yourself, be original and not a carbon copy. Shalom

source: http://www.evergreenmarriage.com